Compatibility

How the styles pair up

Every combination of attachment, love and conflict style has a shape: somewhere the two people fit without trying, and somewhere they predictably grind.

These are patterns, not scores. There is no percentage and no ranking here — a "hard" pairing is not a doomed one, and an "easy" pairing still takes effort. Each page covers where a combination connects, where the friction shows up, and one concrete thing each partner can try.

Attachment style

How each person seeks safety and closeness.

Secure and Anxious → Anxious and Avoidant → Avoidant and Secure → Fearful-Avoidant and Secure → Anxious and Fearful-Avoidant → Avoidant and Fearful-Avoidant → Two Avoidant Partners → Two Anxious Partners → Two Secure Partners → Two Fearful-Avoidant Partners →

Love style

How each person gives and recognises affection.

Two Acts of Service Partners → Acts of Service and Shared Experiences → Acts of Service and Thoughtful Gifts → Acts of Service and Quality Time → Acts of Service and Physical Touch → Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation → Two Shared Experiences Partners → Shared Experiences and Thoughtful Gifts → Shared Experiences and Quality Time → Shared Experiences and Physical Touch → Shared Experiences and Words of Affirmation → Two Thoughtful Gifts Partners → Thoughtful Gifts and Quality Time → Thoughtful Gifts and Physical Touch → Thoughtful Gifts and Words of Affirmation → Two Quality Time Partners → Quality Time and Physical Touch → Quality Time and Words of Affirmation → Two Physical Touch Partners → Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation → Two Words of Affirmation Partners →

Conflict style

How each person moves when things get hard.

Two Defender Partners → Defender and Fixer → Defender and Peacekeeper → Defender and Processor → Defender and Pursuer → Defender and Withdrawer → Two Fixer Partners → Fixer and Peacekeeper → Fixer and Processor → Fixer and Pursuer → Fixer and Withdrawer → Two Peacekeeper Partners → Peacekeeper and Processor → Peacekeeper and Pursuer → Peacekeeper and Withdrawer → Two Processor Partners → Processor and Pursuer → Processor and Withdrawer → Two Pursuer Partners → Pursuer and Withdrawer → Two Withdrawer Partners →

Compare your actual results

Take LoveType’s three short tests, then compare with your partner. The app reads both of your styles and shows this for your specific pair — all three dimensions at once.

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