Conflict Style test·24 questions·about 4 minutes

Conflict styles.How you handle tension.

Pursuer, withdrawer, fixer, peacekeeper, defender, processor: what each conflict style does under tension and how the pairings play out.

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In shortA conflict style is what a person tends to do when a disagreement with a partner gets difficult. LoveType describes six: the pursuer (needs to resolve it now), the withdrawer (needs space first), the fixer (goes straight to solutions), the peacekeeper (smooths things over), the defender (explains their side first) and the processor (needs time to think). None is wrong; trouble usually comes from how two styles collide, such as the well-known pursue–withdraw loop.

6 conflict styles

PursuerThe Pursuer

You need resolution to feel safe — silence isn't an option.

WithdrawerThe Withdrawer

Space is how you protect the relationship.

FixerThe Fixer

When something's broken, you want to fix it — including this.

PeacekeeperThe Peacekeeper

You keep the peace — sometimes at your own expense.

DefenderThe Defender

You fight back when you feel misunderstood.

ProcessorThe Processor

You think before you speak — even if it takes a while.

How they pair

Every combination has its own page: where it flows, where it rubs, and what each partner can try.

Conflict style pairings
Style	Pursuer	Withdrawer	Fixer	Peacekeeper	Defender	Processor
Pursuer	Same	×	×	×	×	×
Withdrawer	×	Same	×	×	×	×
Fixer	×	×	Same	×	×	×
Peacekeeper	×	×	×	Same	×	×
Defender	×	×	×	×	Same	×
Processor	×	×	×	×	×	Same

Conflict styles: questions

What is the pursuer–withdrawer pattern?

It is the loop where one partner pushes to talk during conflict and the other pulls away for space, and each move makes the other stronger. It eases when the withdrawer names a time to come back and the pursuer can let the pause happen.

Is one conflict style healthier than the others?

No. Each style protects something real: the connection, the relationship, fairness or clarity. What matters is whether both partners can repair after a fight.

How do I find my conflict style?

The Conflict Style test in LoveType has 24 statements and takes about four minutes. It shows your primary style and how you lean toward the others.